Vincent R Orlando

Throughout 2010, I made a conscious effort to take responsibility for everything that: happened (past); is happening (present); and will happen (future) in my life.  When I got positive results, I was working with God – moving toward the reasons He created me.  When I tried to take lone control, well, you can imagine the results.  I found that if I did not accept responsibility and blamed others, that I could not move forward.  Furthermore, when I work on what I want versus what God wants for me, I have the tendency of really screwing things up.

I also made a valiant attempt to stop judging people (and/or events) based on my own set of rules, opinions, things I find objectionable, and things that make me anxious.  My perceptions are linked to my past derived from people and events that influenced me and molded my character.  In order to build good relationships, I had to stop seeing myself in others (whether consciously or subconsciously) and see them for who and what they are – without judgment.  As I stated before, I listen to my gut instinct but, I now try to take my feelings out of the equation, and make observations on their actions.  I used to get a series of CD’s from an old mentor – Richard Flint.  One of his best quotes: “Behavior Never Lies!”  This is why I take notice to what someone does versus what they say.  When I observe, I can distinguish between truth, lies, and errors in judgments.

Who do you know that “walks the walk and talks the talk?”  If I knew these people, I would be constantly asking them questions, especially if they were the kind of person that I was striving to be.  I do not mean comparing what they have to what I have.  I am talking about how they nurture their mind, body, spirit, and relationships.

Tell me about the influential people in your life.  I am building a “community of influence” and would like to promote people that have a positive influence in society.  Send emails to: Vinny@VincentROrlando.com.  I will conduct interviews with you and the person you tell me about and possibly broadcast the talk on a new Internet Radio program I am thinking of starting 1Q2011.

Be Blessed!

Words have power but: “Behavior Never Lies!”

Another way to put it is:  Actions speak louder than words or maybe;  A picture is worth a thousand words!  So tell me, what would you rather have:  Someone who tells you what you want to hear;  Someone who tells you how things really are or;  Someone who walks the walk and talks the talk?  People say a lot of things because words do have power.  A child hears that they are stupid, lazy, unwanted (you fill in the negative thought), and how do you think they will grow up?  How powerful is their self esteem?  Take that same child and tell them that they are intelligent, energetic, wanted and loved.  Now how powerful is their self esteem?  Take that same child and help them with their studies, exercise / play with them, hug them.  You won’t have to tell me about their self esteem – I’ll be able to see if for myself.

People say a lot of things:  Some are truthful;  Some are out-and-out lies, and;  Some are a person’s version of (what they believe to be) the truth.  You find the latter in witness statements.  A person’s perception of things vary in many (many) different ways.  These perceptions are affected by our experiences and our desire to be Loved, Accepted, Important, to feel Worthy and that we are Enough for someone.  These perception are also impacted by what we were taught: education; values; right versus wrong.  That is why I listen to what people say but value how they act in certain situations.  “Knee-jerk” reactions are tell-tale signs of a person’s true character.  However, when a person is trying to change something within themselve, that knee-jerk reaction is quickly adjusted and guided toward a more subtle explanation.  Warning:  Don’t judge, just be on the lookout for all things said and unsaid.

Your mission (if you choose to accept it) is to analyze or examine how you communicate.  Do you listen to words, or do you prefer actions?  Are you a “Do as I say and not as I do” person?  Do you “Walk the walk AND talk the talk” or do you say one thing and act some other way?  Who are you?  Who are you not?

Talk to me!

Be Blessed!