Fighter or Survivor
Are you a “fighter” or a “survivor?” The answer could say a lot about an individual, their mind, body, and spirit.
After running an Internet search for the definition of the word survivor, a survivor is a noun. It has three basic meanings. 1) A person or thing that survives (that sure helped a lot). 2) (Law) the one of two or more people, of joint tenants or interests, who outlive the others – as commonly seen in an obituary (John Doe is survived by his wife Jane. Okay, survived is a verb in this case but the point is that Jane is the survivor of the relationship). 3) A person who continues to function or (even) prosper in spite of conflict, poverty, or obstacles. Personally, I like the third definition because it relates to prosperity as a person overcomes challenges. The real question is: How did this person overcome their hurdle(s)?
Walking around town, there are many people who wear t-shirts and other apparel stating that they are survivors. “I’m a cancer survivor,” or “I survived Hurricane Katrina.” Any efforts to support these causes should be applauded. (Commercial Here: Go To http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=840555707538) However, are these people merely survivors, or did they put up one hell of a fight to immobilize the disastrous results on a person’s life? Ask anyone who had to take a round of chemotherapy or a radiation treatment about how they felt before, during, and after the experience. Can you imagine the courage and intestinal fortitude it took to go into that battle?
Survivors of “natural disasters” are pretty amazing too. Think about the stress that goes along with having your home destroyed (for whatever reason), and facing being homeless, or having to accept charity. And think about the people who live near but were not personally affected by the disaster. There is a survivor syndrome that makes us feel a little guilty that we made it without a scratch, while our neighbors suffered so dearly. This occurrence happens in tornado strikes, or even to those who survive a cutback of employees. Is this luck, or a case of divine intervention? If everything happens for a reason, whose reasoning are we dealing with?
These thoughts are the kinds that keep me humble. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very proud of the fact that I am a fighter. And, I “thank” my higher power every day (sometimes two, three, or more times a day) for giving me this great gift. This gift is one that each of us possess.
Tell me about your victories – your triumphs, over life’s curveballs. If you haven’t gotten totally over the hurdle, let’s talk about it. Nobody can ever really know what you are going through because they don’t have your knowledge, experiences and wisdom, support group, etc. However, I know without a doubt, that getting it out in the open, and facing the monsters, and developing a course of action is easier once you talk about fears. At least, it is a good first step.